HEALING UNITED MOVEMENT (H.U.M.)

Greetings Beloved!

Thank you for visiting Healing United Movement (H.U.M.) blog. The HUM blog & vlog is founded and created by Ynav Avlis. This blog will consist of innovative, inspirational and thought provoking subjects in the areas of art, body, mind and spirituality.

With Gratitude,

Breathe Love Laugh Dance (BLLD)

H.U.M. & Ynav Avlis

 

 

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IN LOVE

Greetings Beloved

I seek that this blog finds you all in great spirits.

When in love, body, mind, heart and soul don’t even exist. Become this, fall in love, and you will not be separated again“~ Rumi

About a month ago, I had an urge to dive deep with my women and men warriors on this question: “What is your inner standing / understanding of being in love? We all have an idea of what love is, what love feels like, and what love looks like. But how does it look and feel like to be in love? Is there even a difference of loving someone and being in love with someone? Does one precede the other or do they both consume us simultaneously?

Upon asking the men and women this question, I received a mix of immediate responses, unrelated to the question asked but about the question that was asked. The instant responses ranged from, “oh that that is a deep question, that is a good question, that is a surprisingly difficult question, and…great question Queen.” The themes that I saw emerging from such responses were that folks appeared to be clearer of the felt sensation of loving and being in love than actually describing it. In the words of one man (20’s), “I’ve never really tried to articulate what being in love means; I guess I’ve been okay with just existing in it rather than trying to wrap my mind around it” and of another man (40’s), “it is harder to put it in words than one would expect” [he was asked but never responded stating he would need time].

The POPULATION

Eleven participants took part in this poll. I polled three men: one in his mid-20’s and two in their 30’s and five women: one in her 30’s, two in their 20’s, two in their 40’s and one in her late 50’s. These were the original rounds of folks that I asked the questions to and that answered the fastest. The second round of folks was polled on May 16th. The sample population for that was: two men: one in his mid-20’s and another in his early 60’s and a woman, in her late 50’s. Three participants identified their relationship status as being in a committed partnership, two participants identified as a married couple, and six participants identified as being single – meaning they are not currently talking to someone and/or dating.

The METHOD

The men and women in this poll were asked the question via the following modes of communication: Instagram, Viber, Marco Polo, and mobile/cell text messaging. There were two participants that were asked face to face but they chose to write and Marco Polo their responses, respectively. All the participants had the option of writing their answers or verbally responding via the various modes of communication. Three out of five men participants chose to write their responses. Five out of six women participants chose to verbally express their responses.

The RESPONSES

The WOMEN

~…“is not fully measured with words. It’s a feeling that you innerly know for certain, subconsciously or consciously. It’s a feeling of wanting to serve the highest good in somebody” [in a relationship]

~…“looking forward to being around and with… and intimate with…sharing with someone on a consistent basis. Looking forward to seeing my husband every day and being excited when I see him or him being able to make me giggle and blush…those are the important parts…really knowing a person and trusting a person…not all the fluffy stuff…it’s really the connection of trusting someone and respecting someone and loving to be in their presence in all different capacities” [married]

~ “I guess it’s just like wanting to reach towards the positive all the time…it’s something that should make you reach towards the positive all the time. If ever it makes you reach toward anything negative, makes you be subservient to your ego instead of your soul, than that is not really being in love, that is a different kind of love, one that is trying to coincide with false identity and therefore a type of false love”[in a relationship]

~ “I really think, I really think being in love with yourself, being in love with who you are, where you are going, your life, continuing to recreate yourself, the love for you, for what you doing here makes you feel better, makes you whole, makes you a better person and helps you understand love. I think you can only love somebody else as deeply as you can understand that love. And, um somebody else can only love you as deeply as they understand that love. So I’ve switched from, well, partnerships, friendships, relationships to satisfy you and make you feel loved…it’s really coming into relationship with yourself. In doing that, you have lots of other great relationships, of course. The idea that, what am I doing to get in my way of abundance, of love, of feeling good because you are the only person that can create that. Being in love, means you have to come back to yourself” [single]

~”Love is unconditional, patient…selfless, giving, long suffering, beautiful, rare, shown through family, shown through friends, amazing, unity, peace. Love can be a feeling when received; love is expressed more than being a feeling. Love covers a multitude of sins, never gives up on self or someone. Love is simply faithful…ongoing. Love is also healing” [single]

~Love is a good thing to do and have. Love is great, love is vitamin. When you love someone you feel grateful, you feel fantastic because you in love. Especially true love comes through your heart. I love to be in love…I love to be treated the same way as I love someone. Love is love for who respects love and does love” [in a relationship]

The MEN

~”Ok I’m not sure if there are adequate words to describe it but perhaps an overwhelming happiness or joy” [single]

~So far, I understand it can be difficult to sustain the love for someone after seeing the best and worst of them but if that person still remains in your life and still attracts you, somehow than I believe love is not only there but you continue to fall in love all over again” E.D [single]

~”Heaven” [single]

~To me, love is the frequency of our true authentic self. Being in love is being aware of the divinity that happens when authentic souls meet on the same frequency and can share that same frequency with grace, balance, and acceptance” [single]

~Being in love! When you feel time is like a moment and space feels in your hands. And we wish this feeling to be forever” [married]

DISCUSSION

I will be posting a v-log on my afterthoughts based on these responses by end of this month. In the meantime, I encourage you all to dive and dig deep and discover what being in love means for you. What responses resonated with you the most? Were you surprised by the responses based on the participants age, biological sex, and relationship status? Is being in love more about our self love, loving someone else, or a balance of the two? I look forward to seeing your comments.

With Gratitude

Breathe Love Laugh Dance (BLLD)

Ynav Avlis

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Discovery of Self (DOS)

Greetings Beloved

I seek that you all are in great spirits.

I am currently working on the next blog titled, “What is your inner (under) standing of Being in Love?” Once again, I am gathering from my pool of women warriors (about 10) to get their insights on this question. I am also including a few of my men warriors to gain that Yin / Yang / feminine / masculine energy. Stay tuned.

In the path time, please visit Discovery of Self (DOS) a platform where you can gain access to FREE knowledge in the areas of self growth, spirituality, and sexuality, to name a few.

With Gratitude

Breathe Love Laugh Dance (BLLD)

Ynav Avlis

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Ami~Prieten~Vinr~Sõber~Venn~Ven

Greetings Beloveds,

I trust this blog post finds you all in great spirits.

There is a song titled, “Love in Any Language” by Sandy Patti, that has always stuck with me since performing it in a choir show back in my elementary days. This song inspired me to view friend/friendship in much the same way, not just in how the word friend is written and pronounced but how it shows up for individuals in different cultures. I wanted to know what friendship meant for them (question 1), what made a good friendship (question 2), whether the quality or quantity of friends mattered (question 3), and if they subscribed to the different levels of friends (i.e, best friends, close friends, etc, question 4).

BRAIN JOURNEY: Go on an adventure and figure which 6 languages were used for the word friend as seen in title/heading. Hint: I used all 6 letters in the word friend to choose the language.

Once again, I had the honor and pleasure of asking my warrior women to provide their viewpoint on this subject. Their responses have been paraphrased and summarized, along with minimal quotes, so as to not compromise their unique answers. Although, each of my woman friends had their own unique viewpoint, the majority of them had five friend/friendship characteristics (honesty, trust, humor, understanding, and compassion) that came out from questions one, two, and three, that they felt was vital for a healthy and positive friendship. NOTE: The “I”/me in these responses are all from the women, not the writer of this blog.

QUESTION 1: What does friendship or a friend mean to you?

“Friendships has layers, like circles and circles around us and many fall within those layers and circles.” A friend is someone who you can connect to on a genuine level that can be a vessel and catalyst for building trust, honesty, and understanding. Friendship can also serve to be a reflection (mirroring effect) of who we are thus allowing us to understand more about who we and our friends are. As a result, this mirroring relationship lends itself to an empathetic connection with our friend. Friends that can make you feel good and comfortable may also open doors to a relationship filled with creativity and humor. A friendship that bases itself on being mature and open-minded may be beneficial when it comes to sharing those good and the bad moments.

QUESTION 2: What makes a good friend?

A good friend is someone who is caring, understanding, compassionate, honest, raw [raw truth], trusting, and truthful. A friend is also someone who holds a level of integrity. Being an active listener, having a positive outlook, and accepting me for who I am are all additional qualities that I feel makes a good friend. I appreciate a friend who embodies a positive presence and engages in a humorous interaction with me. I feel it’s important for friends to be aware of each other’s needs, intentions, and boundaries. The energy that is experienced from each of these awareness-es may create a space of reciprocal love and caring for one another. Moreover, this helps to create a respectful, safe, and healthy companionship.

QUESTION 3: Is quality or quantity more important when it comes to friends/friendship?

“As I meet people I get a sense of who they are.” Their level of understanding and what we can contribute to each other’s life [is what I look for in a friend]. “I am a people person so I make friends easily.” “Having a couple of friends” [is what I prefer].

QUESTION 4: Do you have levels of friendship?

“I have close friends and best friends – they are all close friends so I don’t subscribe to labels that much; each friend has a special place in my life.” “I don’t subscribe to labels but I am friendly and I make friends easily but I do have close friends and everyone else is acquaintances…I don’t have a best friend forever.” I do believe there are levels of friendship: there are acquaintances (“you know but don’t talk too much to”), friend (there for you, spend time with, have common interests, share thoughts with”), and intimate relationship (“emotional connection, a bestie, a best friend, or intimate partner”).

With Gratitude,

Breathe Love Laugh Dance (BLLD)

HUM & Ynav Avlis

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F.A.A.

Greetings,

May this blog find you in groovy spirits.

This blog is about food and art, specifically, how food is art. The shapes, forms, and colors it brings makes food as art (F.A.A.).   It is widely expressed that we eat with our eyes before we even move to our other senses.

According to Marinello, in her blog “Do you eat with your eyes”¹, the sight, shape, and consistency of food is what determines our appeal to it thus making it appetizing or not. In an article, published by Science Direct titled, “You eat with your eyes first” by Delwiche, she states that “visual stimuli have been shown to alter the perception of taste, smell, and flavor” and goes further to mention specific visual cues, such as “gloss, evenness, and shape”, as determining factors in altering our taste and flavor of the food.²

For the purpose of this blog, I was interested to see what visuals/images came to folks at first sight. I asked the question, “What comes to you or resonate with you when you see the this image (#1)? I have captioned the responses under that image. Although, these food were in liquid form, one can clearly see the shapes and forms it took. The other two images, I would like to know what came to mind at first sight for you?

I hope that you are able to find pleasures in finding art expressed through food or food expressing itself in creative ways. It is these simple but intriguing aspects of how we connect with food, beyond the smell, taste, and even sounds, to create a holistic experience of nourishing our body, mind, and spirit.

With Gratitude

Breathe Love Laugh Dance (BLLD)

HUM & Ynav

 

 

¹https://blog.timesunion.com/healthyprofessor/do-you-eat-with-your-eyes/2722/

²https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0031938412002703

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Emotional Tools For Healing

Greetings Beloved

May this blog find you all in great spirits.

According to Miriam Webster’s definition, emotion ( i-ˈmō-shən) is (1) “a subjective response to a person, thing, or situation and (2) “depth of feeling.”¹ It has its etiology from three origins: Middle French émotion (“a moving), Old French emouvoir (“stir up”), and Latin emovere (“move out”).²

I have chosen to continue the topic of emotion(s) flowing through these recent blogs as I have come to re-discover the importance of emotions in our everyday life. I am especially revisiting our ability (or lack thereof) to fully express our emotions in a safe, healthy, and effective manner. Specifically, I am interested in the tools we all are utilizing to cope with the onset of challenging emotions.

The perspective that I follow when it comes to emotions are three-fold: (1) the feelings and sensations that we are experiencing within our selves, (2) the feelings and sensations that we are experiencing with people, places, or things, and (3) the response(s) that we are engaging in based upon our experiences. Regardless of the path that you are on with such expressed emotions, the most important thing to consider is/are the tool (s) needed to guide you towards your emotional healing/well-being.These tools can take on many forms based on your personality, lifestyle, cultural background and various other factors unique to you. The key is to keep these tools simple but effective. The goal is to always keep them unlocked and ready to use as part of your daily self-care regimen.

I asked several of my warrior women friends of what their emotional “tool box” looks like and below are some of the themes that were shared by the majority. Interestingly enough, most of the tools provided involved some form of the body being engaged through one or more of the five senses (sight, hearing/sound, touch, smell, and taste) and moving.

~Music, chanting, dumping (venting), being outdoors, food, dance/moving, silence, isolation (“me-time”), and singing.

As you may have recalled earlier from the definition above, emotions are something deep within us that needs to “stir and move out”. By this definition, this seems to imply that emotion lives in/within our body. Thus, it only makes sense that we use the act of motion/moving via our body to release these feelings/sensations.

 What emotional tools are you using towards your goal of being your strongest, true, and balanced self? 

With Gratitude

Breathe Love Laugh Dance (BLLD)

HUM & Ynav

 

¹https://www.merriam-webster.com/thesaurus/emotion

²https://www.etymonline.com/word/emotion

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Who Do You Want To Be or Become?

Greetings Beloved,

May this post/blog/message find you all in the best and calmest of spirits. I trust all of you had a peaceful, joyful, and full of life entrance into the year 2019!

It has been seven (7) months since the last post, titled “Emotions from Different Cultures” (June 4th, 2018). I wanted to return with something that moves smoothly and in line with this last post; specifically, how emotions show up for us during our journey towards self-discovery. The result came to me  in the form of this question; “Who do you want to be or become?” I was grateful to inspire 17 women* warriors that dove deep to discover their being/essence.

Although, the population sample** were derived from women of diverse cultural background (Vietnamese, Cape Verdean, Mexican, African-American, African), socioeconomic status (students, working professionals, entrepreneurs, therapists, healers, & artists), relationship status (married, single, divorced), and age (early 20’s to late 50’s), I truly believe that their responses will resonate with everyone on some, if not, all levels.

It is my wish, to you all, to find inspiration and motivation through these women’s heartfelt, honest, and authentic responses^. It is now my honor to share these words^^ of healing, guidance, and wisdom from the warriors I have been grateful to have connected with.

Who Do You Want To Be or Become?

“…a financially stable, home owning individual with a healthy happy family that is progressive in our community.”

“I want to be me…whoever that is. I don’t want to be Tracey Chapman, Nia Long, Beyoncé, etc. I am enough now, during my chosen growth and at the time of my ascension.”

“All that is nature, all that is in what we were created for.”

“Just keep it coming…whatever I set out to do here…I mean just keep doing what i set out to do here, you know. We all came here for a reason before we were born. We all choose the life circumstances, and the people we meet and our families in order to learn certain lessons, and I am still learning every day. I mean we’re gonna be learning infinitely, always; we’re always going to be here in one form or another so i guess it’s just allowing…following my intuition…become more of what I am…the point is not knowing and just flow with it.”

“To be my most authentic self in regards to just being. …I want that [blogging and business] to be an expression of my authentic self tapered with the gifts that I have to offer, which I believe are connections to other human beings based on life experiences.”

“I want to be successful… I want to be motivated… I want to be productive. I want to be a peacemaker… I want to be gentle and sensitive… I want to be kind, I want to be understanding, patient, and I want to be a person that keeps her word and that does what she says she is going to do. I want to be of assistance.”

..”A wise, compassionate, understanding, courageous guide.”

“More at peace…more trusting in my process [of] learning to let go; more patient and kind.”

“To continue being my authentic self and to continue to step into this role and path of doing healing work with music and sound.”

“A better version of myself…I want to grow from my past, let that shit go and live…become more open to feeling and not allowing my past to like…have this negative effect on me. I want to be happy…and good enough in a sense. I want to be me…a happier, confident, self-aware…like I’m the shit and I know i am the shit and i am smart as hell and i don’t need anyone to tell me that I am that. I want to be a fucking bad ass!”

“Closest to what my mom is like…really always looking to grow and be a better person. Just always challenging yourself…always trying to do the next best thing. [asking the questions]; how can I improve myself, how can I become better for me and the world?”

“I would like to become the absolutely best version of myself. No one else.”

“I want to be Oprah.”

“I wanna be my best self. I wanna become my best self. I wanna be the happy, resilience, easy-going, whatever comes come kind of person I used to be.”

“I want to be authentically me..so profoundly… that… all of the gifts, all of the abilities, even just down to the minimum, the energy that I present is unadulterated, unfiltered for the people that it’s meant to reach. I want my area of responsibility to gather and gain everything from me that they are meant to. I want to be exactly who I… was designed to be…a world changer…a life giver…and creator in every sense of the word…peace.”

“A proprietor, supervisor, [and I want to] travel.”

“I want to become the version of myself I often hide, the part that is fully confident and proud, silly, strong, intelligent, brave. She comes out sometimes, with those she trusts. But I want to fully become her. I want to let that version of me radiate through every piece of me, not just show its face when it’s the last resort. I feel I am closer to becoming my full self now than ever before. Every year I inch closer. I hope to continue striving for fullness in myself…maybe never quite reaching it, but never stopping the growth…I want to be a woman who advocates and uses her voice. I want to be a daughter who shows unconditional love. I want to be a partner who pays attention and never gives up. I want to be a mother who encourages, challenges, and never stops learning. I want to be connected to earth and universe. I want to be someone who makes a difference.”

With Gratitude

Breathe Love Laugh Dance (BLLD)

H.U.M. & Ynav Avlis

 

*Names/identifiable information were omitted for privacy and confidentiality purposes.
**This is a small-scale qualitative research/study. It is primarily intended for inspirational, motivational, and educational purposes. 
^Question was asked (1/6/19) and responses were provided/recorded between January 6th ~ January 20, 2019 by Ynav Avlis via text messages and Marco Polo (a video messaging app). 
^^ Responses were verbatim and grammar is ignored to keep the authenticity of the women’s energetic response at the time they presented it. Brackets were solely used to offer readers clarity and flow of reading.
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Emotions from Different Cultures

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