“awareness that gender exists as part of a continuum and humans should be allowed to explore both the masculine and feminine sides of themselves without fear of judgment or being ostracized.”
Yes and in agreement with the above quote. WE are all born with feminine and masculine energies, as I love to call it. It is a spectrum and some embody one more than the other. I feel that there is a balance in the universe itself that allows for these two complimentary qualities, not opposites, because that implies opposition and I feel this word and implication of the word is why we have so much negative views between men/women, female/male, boy/girl. We use the word “other”, “opposite”, “polar opposites” and etc to define the masculine and feminine energy. We are simply a mirror for one another just expressed “differently” so that we may appreciate the value and benefit both energies bring. If we start embracing and supporting the complimentary parts of ourselves we would see shift in all the stereotyping and negative consequences that comes with taking on the opposition mentality!
We also want to label something that we do not know. AS the psychiatrist in the video interview mentioned, we are convention and like for things to fit in a box. We are uncomfortable with not knowing something and not being able to place it in its “place.” We fear the unknown but mostly we fear what we think we know about the unknown. All of us have that urging to break free from the “box” and express ourselves freely. I have much respect for those that are stepping into the unknown!
IDENTITY & VALIDATION
” Does your gender identification provide you with shame and doubt, pride and confidence, or perhaps something else entirely? How might you help a future client and/or yourself explore gender identity and feel validated in whatever is discovered?
My gender provides me with confidence, the ability to nurture, care for and love immensely. The feminine energy is electrical and we have the ability to balance our masculine side and our masculine partners. WE are all-encompassing of all things love and creation and we sensually and freely share this with our masculine selves and partner. I am aware of my strengths, weakness, doubts, insecurities, flaws, etc but I feel that is why we have the other side of ourselves and of our partners to balance these qualities out. They are not negative or positive, they just are. They exist so that we can know more of ourselves and merge with our complimentary masculine energy or partner. Biologically speaking, babies are “girls/females” before the masculine physical qualities is ever born. Right here we see that they exist in one but are divided upon entering this realm.
Validation, empathy and support are key to helping out a client discover their greatest version of themselves, in whatever shape or form, so that they may freely and comfortably express themselves. My co-dancer was talking one day about her engagement and I commented, ” I better be invited to the wedding.” She replied, “Yes, if you do not mind coming to a lesbian wedding.” My response, “Listen love is love and I am not that close or narrow-minded to deny your love for another person, regardless of their birth sex, gender, sexual orientation, etc. I saw the spark in her eyes and she high-fived me and stated, “Thank you!” So I have always had an open attitude and demeanor about those who are shunned out as different, weird, crazy, etc. I was the one that felt at ease on a psychiatric ward instead of behind the desks chatting with the co-workers. I embrace uniqueness.
So to answer your question, Ali. I would validate them by accepting them 100% and help them find support through community organizations. I would seek to find their greatest positive and strengths and seek to encourage them to utilize this as a gift to the world. There is saying that goes something like, If you want to lift your soul, lift someone else’s. The way I can help myself is by constantly exploring, asking questions, being curious, being comfortable with not knowing the answer and even if I think I know it, keep looking. I feel like I am always learning and love to learn! I do not want to know everything, I want to know nothing and be everything in the process of knowing what I do not know.